I’ve read so many things so I do not know where the idea below came from. It feels very intuitive and kicks in when the conditions are right for it.
Lately, this instruction comes during meditation once things are relatively settled. It usually happens when I cruise on “resting awareness on the breath”. The instruction / intention is to “get in the middle of now”. At this point, breath sensations strangely get mixed up with color sensations, so that I experience breathing as various shades of black interacting. When I do the “middle of now”, it almost feels like top of the breath is a little black arrowhead that dives into the sea of blackness.
I did this today, and it turns out, that the middle of now has quite a lot in store for me. First, I started breathing as if I just completed the NYC marathon. I can’t make myself breathe like that if you would ask me to try it now. Then, tears came, then, sadness. I find it very interesting that tears would be before the actual emotion and even more interesting, to experience emotion without knowing the underlying cause – just pure raw emotion. The sadness stops suddenly – that is also very cool, as if someone is pressing “emotion” buttons to see what each one does. Some more unusual breathing followed, and a bit of moaning as if experiencing low-grade pain, and a weird guttural sound almost like very quite growl.
It felt good to get all of this stuff out. Afterwards, there was a feeling of nice calm. So, I will definitely explore diving into the middle of experience again. It is pretty cool. I also see how it can be applied off the cushion – to everything.
“You are your own teacher. Looking for teachers can’t solve your own doubts. Investigate yourself to find the truth - inside, not outside. Knowing yourself is most important.” - Ajahn ChahI thought that I need a teacher. It has always been in the back of my mind - to keep my eyes open for a teacher, a real flesh and bones teacher that is accessible. I’ve been evaluating possible candidates but there has never been a good match. From time to time I would see this clearly written (like in a very well-known book that I am currently reading, that has a whole chapter on the subject of teachers) - “one must have a teacher, one would be lost without one”. So, when I saw a chance to go on a retreat and meet with a an esteemed teacher, I took it. Everything about him seemed like he could be the one.
So, I went. Very far away. I had a few technical questions for him but not much beyond that. I thought that with my “right teacher”, this would not be a problem - we would just connect. And I met with him, and I asked my technical questions (which I seemed to know the right answers to myself). Our meeting was not one-on-one and I felt awkward and I felt that I am bothering this private person who is not feeling well. He was courteous and very kind but there was no connection. At the end, I thanked him for something he did in the past that I learned from his bio, something that I really connected to about him, and as I was explaining to him the reasons why this connected with me, I started crying. So weird! Not just a few tears - I could not stop crying and it was just getting worse!
When I left the meeting, I was in a vortex of feeling awkward and embarrassed and stupid and as a failure for travelling so far for such experience. I was in this vortex for about two days - my first two days of a silent self-retreat. I cried a lot and tried to work it out, tried to see what was happening, get to the bottom of it. I could see that this was a silly problem, made up entirely by my mind, but emotions and storm clouds of thinking, they just would not let up. I thought about it thousands of times. I paced restlessly on beautiful nature paths that surround this retreat location and I could barely pay attention to beauty. I came to a few conclusions in the process:
- I have greedy striving for special experiences and I am ready to let it go.
- I do not need a teacher. Or, more precisely, teachings and teachers are all around. Take nature and Earth, for example. Just connecting with those is so powerful.
- I intuitively know what I need to do on my path - it is silly to expect that someone would have magical powers to understand me completely. I am sure such people exist, but is it so bad if I do not encounter one? (Plus, I’ve met a lot of amazing people (see below), even if in passing, that have so much light about them, it still shines in my mind).
- Assuming, my intuitive knowledge is not the best guidance - is that so horrible? Is this a competition - to be most spiritually developed? I want out of this competition. I am ready to let go of striving for jhanas, stages, etc. I now know what works for me in meditation and off-cushion - things that tend to result in a smile magically appearing on its own. I will stick with those things, which I enjoy, and if I never develop further, so be it.
- There is just one "goal" and question to work with gently - "Have I caused less suffering today to myself and others?"
On the photo: I kept finding crystals on the path where I meditated often and took this one with me. Flawed like myself.
Happy World Vegan Day! Actually, I do not have any problems with vegans. :) I am "dating" one and veganism is growing like fire. So, cheers to that!
Even Men's Health is covering veganism - something I would not have foreseen just a few years ago for such a mainstream macho publication. :)
I am so freaking lucky that I was able to score these tickets to sold out performances by Martha Argerich and Daniil Trifonov. (Argerich was sold out on the day box office opened!) I only learned about her recently - she is rated as #1 pianist! My mom, a piano teacher, did not know about her either but after I sent her some videos, she asked that I clap extra for her tonight. :) She will be playing with an Italian orchestra - which is extra fun for me. And it looks like there will be a live transmission of the concert.
I first saw Trifonov after he won the Tchaikovsky competition and also really looking forward to his performance.
P.S.: Look at this photo of Martha Argerich from 1971. She is such a feline!
I admire how some people are very observant. To notice little things requires presence. And when such people are artistic and can share what they notice, their creations are the most wonderful thing. These dogs looking over their shoulder, for example - how cool to be able to notice and capture that look. My favorites are #2 and #5, but I love them all.
In my meditation journey, I went through a period where I felt a sense of overwhelm in daily life. It felt like little things were too much - there were so many of them and I could not possibly succeed in doing them all.
Another development was sensing internal energy and a great interest in therapeutic ways of working with it. As I've been discovering and experimenting with various methods, I found a state of being that feels like a glass of calm clean water. When I am in that state, my days go very different. There is no desire to watch or read anything, to distract myself with something online. Such activities feel like something that would pollute and cloud the water, they feel extraneous.
While the "clean water" feeling is particularly strong on certain days, it also tends to influence my life in general. For example, I might have mentioned here how it would be nice to stay away from news. I've had long stretches of time where I've been able to follow that, especially after the current president got elected - the news feed got particularly ridiculous. But, unfortunately, quite often there were such horrendous events happening, I could not help but read about them and then read some more and then keep clicking to see if there are any updates. One feels tempted to watch the horrific footage of witnesses from cell phone cameras, the descriptions of victims, etc.
However, I came to realize that this obsessive behavior is not healthy. And, actually, most news feeds / sites / alerts are not good for us. The sense of overwhelm I had made me rethink what I want to let in my life. If I were to break down what news is - it is a stream of energy and, this day and age, it is very negative energy. The news outlets make money if they get more viewers / readers and the best way to attract general population is by putting up something shocking and fear generating. Fear is a powerful emotion that would make one keep coming back.
So, I quit the news for good. The only thing I check regularly is Veg News, because I love observing how veganism is spreading. Also, some events still get to me through word of the mouth. For example, within the last two weeks people told me about the following: shooting in Vegas, Tom Petty maybe died (and then died for real), and hurricane is coming to Louisiana. About two factual sentences for each without any additional and constant analysis, details, speculation.
But what about activism? Any situations that I might possibly get involved with in any way, tend to get to me somehow. For example, I get e-mails from charities when extra donations are needed here or there or e-mails about activities like the Animal Rights March. So I feel like I am not missing out there.
As a result, I don't get that sense of overwhelm lately and would love to keep it that way by guarding my senses so that the water stays calm and clear. Having control over whether I want to allow unnecessary negativity in my life is also a great tool in spiritual development. Highly recommended!